Entry Title: The Tao of Jasper

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Chris Johnson's Comment:

This post is an indirect response to a recent comment that was left on Jasper's blog. Loss is an incredibly difficult experience and we understand how hard it can be to try to console those who have gone through it. I have to say that in all of the time that we've had this blog we have not ever deleted a single comment until now. I just need to reiterate a few of Becca's points. Though Jasper did have an incredibly difficult and short life, describing it as "suffering" feels more like a judgment than a consolation. We would like to believe that he was not suffering for his life, but rather fighting for it and we were always with him to give him strength and support through some unbelievably hard times.

We loved our son with everything we had and hated the surgeries, tests and medications that he had to endure, but it was our hope that he would survive and get beyond all of those things and live the life that he deserved.

We love the comments you all leave and they have helped us through these last 17 or so months. Thank you for your kind thoughts and prayers and keep them coming, but please be considerate and try to chose positive words. They are the most helpful by far. CJ

Posted on April 15, 2010 at 5:24 pm

Marlen's Comment:

Even though Jasper has passed, I can't help but check back at his blog to see how you two are holding up & to look at his pictures to remember this wonderful little guy. Keep living one day at a time and remeber that Jasper is always with you.

Posted on April 16, 2010 at 11:14 am

SMCMom's Comment:

I love and miss Jasper every day. Thanks for continuing to update this blog. You gave Jasper the most incredible life, every minute of every day. He was lucky to have you and you guys were beyond lucky and blessed to have been the ones who got to hold, love and kiss him every day as well as watching him enjoy playing with his favorite toys and music and taking in everything he experienced.

Posted on April 17, 2010 at 1:20 pm

Mrs. Bonecrusher's Comment:

I love you both, I miss Jasper terribly and I am already in love with Reece as he is a part of you both. oxoxoxoxx

Posted on April 19, 2010 at 9:32 am

Robyn Mullins's Comment:

I have always followed along and marveled at your strength as a family. Your blog, so beautifully written, I always admired the positive attitude you had no matter what the situation. You were dedicated, attentive, wonderful parents that filled his life with love. He was a beautiful little child and you could see right into his sweet soul. You fought as a family, and he will always be with you. I think of you and Chris every day. Love, Robyn :)

Posted on April 20, 2010 at 6:32 am

The Kern Family's Comment:

Hi Becca and Chris, Tom and I still think of Jasper and frequently still check this particular blog. What you both wrote was beautifully written and well said. We love you. Amy and Tom

Posted on April 22, 2010 at 8:11 pm

Susan (FF) Daily's Comment:

There was something about our children who were taken too soon -- they seemed to have a presence about them -- like they knew so much more than us. But then they had their little boy moments! I can second-guess the care I sought for my son, but it was always done in the hope that he would get to live a beautiful life. And that is the important (and necessary for sanity) thing to remember. I'm sorry I haven't been in touch much, but I am thinking of you, Becca and Chris, and wondering how you are doing. The days will eventually get easier. The pain remains, but it evolves. {{[hugs]]]

Posted on April 23, 2010 at 4:31 pm

Donna0901's Comment:

I was just thinking about you guys this weekend so I decided to check and see if you had any updates. I am so sorry that someone described Jasper's life as nothing more than "suffering". I know that many people had told me the same thing when Angelo passed, even though he only lived for one day. Everyone would say "at least he is now at peace and is no longer suffering". I never knew what to say, so I just said "thank you". I think this is something that most people will say when it comes to the loss of a person who had complications. I followed Jasper's journey since the beginning, and I know that I left comments about the smile I would see in Jasper's eyes, and the love I saw in his face. There was no denying it. All you had to do was look into his eyes. It showed that yes, he's had some tough times, but he is still happy, and content, and full of love. Daniella would always point to his picture and smile at him too. Call me silly, but I truly believe that she, as well, saw the same smile that I did. And I know that he is still smiling in heaven as he watches over you and awaits the arrival of his little brother. Big love and hugs to you. Love Donna, Joey, and Daniella

Posted on June 12, 2010 at 8:13 pm